"when are you going to get better? it's been years!"

I couldn't have said it better myself. My worst fear, has Dylan become a young carer? Everything I know from 12 years working with Young carers says yes. The hidden caring is the worrying, the adapting to changing moods and states of health for the child. And this will be a stressor for him no doubt about it. Particularly if this experience happens along the pathway of adolescence, in his way, on his mind. My dear son Dylan is coping so well. He is as grumpy and arsey as any adolescent...good boy! and he has worked hard, maybe could have done a little bit more work, on his mock GCSE's good boy! and he is as self-centred and confident verging on opinionated as I'd expect him to be excellent so far...and at the same time I worry because he always feels so guilty. This is one to keep an eye on and try to acknowledge it as we go along. He's a grand lad and I love him exactly as he is. My situation has been so hard for him to witness. I'm aware that I haven't given any explanations of the 'situation' to readers yet and want to promise that this will come over time. I'd like it to be a growing understanding. It all started when having felt pretty below par for several years and two quite big skin flare-ups, I decided on my 50th birthday to do what I thought would be a two month detox..........